Around New Years my queen, Leigh Bardugo, said we should strive to begin as we mean to go on. That really stuck with me, even if I generally prove to be less than fantastic at the going on part (recognizing that you have a problem is always the first step, kids). And while New Years is great and all, its easy to feel like you’ve missed your shot if you didn’t stick to the resolutions you set back in January.
If that sounds familiar, I’ve got good news. You didn’t miss your shot. You don’t have to wait around for New Years to get another clean slate. We get a fresh start every week! It’s called Sunday.
I know it can be tempting to sit in bed all day watching Netflix and dreading Monday morning, but if you spend just a few hours of your Sunday grounding yourself and preparing for the week ahead, Monday won’t be quite so dreadful when it finally arrives. Honestly, I’m talking to myself as much as I am talking to you. Every fiber of my being wants to become one with the couch while marathon watching The Staircase, but I know I won’t thank myself for that tomorrow morning. Instead, here are five things I’m going to do today that you should consider doing too.
1. Cleanse Your Space
If you’re anything like me, messes just sort of happen. My depression and anxiety often manifest as a wrinkled floordrobe and an embarrassing collection of glasses still half filled with water spanning the top of my headboard. Even on weeks when my mental health is well behaved (thank the goddess for Lexapro, am I right?) the chaos of daily life leaves its mark. Socks stolen by one of the fluffy familiars running around litter the living room floor. Dishes pile up after a night or two of being too exhausted to bother with them after dinner.
The point is, I’m not judging. Existing as a human being means making messes. But it’s best to leave last week’s messes in…well last week. Don’t start the week stressed out because you realize Monday morning that you’re out of clean underwear and also have no spoons to eat your cereal with. Pick a podcast (I’m a big fan of My Favorite Murder and The Adventure Zone) or an audio book (I’m currently making my way through The Newsflesh Trilogy by Mira Grant), and spend a few hours cleansing your space of last week’s chaos and lingering negative energy. Open the windows if you can, or light a candle or some incense. Take the time to make it a space you can look forward to coming home to every night.
2. Cleanse Your Mind
Clutter isn’t only physical. Whether we want to or not, our minds collect unwanted scraps the same way our coffee tables collect useless coupons and those magazines we never subscribed to, but keep getting anyway. It may not seem like much, you might not even really notice it at first, but left untended those scraps pile up, and the more you collect the heavier they become and the harder it is to get rid of them all.
The coming week will undoubtedly have stresses, frustrations, and disappointments of its own; there’s no need to continue carrying the ones from last week. Spend some time today learning what you can from them and then letting them go, whatever that means to you. Maybe you vent any lingering frustrations or resentments out in a journal. Maybe you meditate while envisioning all of the previous week’s negative energy flowing out of you. There’s no wrong way to go about it, as long as it works for you and you take the time to do it.
3. Consult the Tarot
I truly believe Tarot readings have the power to benefit anyone and everyone, if given the chance, and one of my favorite ways to use my cards is for a quick reading about what to expect from the week ahead. These don’t have to be fancy spreads, sometimes I only draw one card, but they are guaranteed to offer you a bit of insight and direction for the week ahead. I also like to journal my Tarot draws to give me a chance to really break down the potential meanings and insights the cards are offering, and to think about how they relate to my life and what I can take away from them.
Personally, I think there is real power in learning to read the cards yourself, but if that’s not an option (or if you just want the experience!) it can be a lot of fun and equally beneficial to have someone else read for you. I do three card spreads for one Kofi if anyone is interested!
I strongly recommend giving Tarot a shot at least once, but if it really isn’t your thing then you can think of this as just taking the time to check in, be it with the universe, a particular god or goddess, or even just with yourself. Take some time to meditate on what you hope to accomplish this week, what obstacles you’ll likely face, and how you can deal with them.
4. Write Down Your Goals
Now that you’ve taken a bit of time consult the cards and meditate on what expectations you have for the coming week, it’s time to write down a few concrete goals. Writing down goals is a bit like super simple magic–it puts your intentions out into the universe, forms a firmer impression of them in your subconscious, and gives you something to refer back to throughout the week if you feel like you’re getting off track.
Some people have a weekly goals section built into their planner or bullet journal, but a scrap piece of paper taped above your desk or a note on your phone work just as well. The important thing is that you externalize them somehow. Pay attention to the words you use, too. Avoid phrases like “I plan to” or “I hope to.” The words “I will” has more force and commitment behind them. Even better, write them in the past tense. It might seem weird, but it forces you to envision a future where you have already accomplished your goals and enables you to imagine yourself reaping the benefits of having accomplished them, which makes you that much more likely to follow through.
5. Make Time for Self Care
We all know that self care is important, and yet none of us ever seem to practice it as often as we should. By building it into your Sunday routine, you guarantee that you’ll get at least one proper self care session in every single week. It also gives you something to look forward to, especially during weeks that might not have much else going for them.
The possibilities are literally limitless. It all depends on what you feel like you most need. And remember, self care doesn’t have to be extravagant to be magical. It can mean painting your nails in glittery black so you can hold the night sky on your finger tips. It can mean lighting a few candles, pouring yourself a glass of wine, and soaking in a nice hot bath. It could be as simple as going to bed a bit early and getting to read a few chapters of the book you’ve been trying to read since last Sunday, or spending some dedicated time cuddled up with your cat.
Monday is coming whether we wish it was or not. Your future self will thank you for spending a few hours of your Sunday making the rest of the week just a bit easier. Do you have any other Sunday routines that help you prepare for the week? Tell me about them below!